Healing Our Roots

In the words of my daughter, “If we were all babies, who would take care of the babies!?” Four-year-olds are brilliant, right? So much wisdom in this wondering.

The truth is, babies only exist within the relationships of those who care for them. They rely on adults for predictable, nurturing and attuned caregiving so they can optimally develop into healthy adults themselves (and so they can answer awesome questions from inquisitive four-year-olds one day, too).

The other truth is, in fact, “we were all babies.” We each have a baby and young child within us that has memories, feelings, and unmet needs. How we were cared for by our own family impacts the ways we relate with one another and our children. We enter into adulthood seeking ways to get our needs met within our partnerships, relationships, and communities. When those needs don’t get met by our outside world or there’s a new traumatic event, we can be re-traumatized in our present, adding feelings of confusion, suffering, and “stuckness”.

Parenting can further stir up unresolved traumas and difficult memories. The unmet needs of the baby we once were become the unmet needs of our own babies and children if we don’t do our own healing work. When you begin to resolve trauma, it impacts past, present, and future. That’s why it's so important to get to the root of the matter by becoming conscious of generational trauma, and healing relational wounds within our families.

We can’t do this healing all alone, we just aren’t designed for that. Relationship wounds are best healed within a nurturing and safe relationship, like the therapeutic one. Just like babies, we need support and care throughout adulthood. Together we can heal past and present traumas, navigate the gray areas of life, cultivate acceptance, and enjoy new ways of being with one another.

Why

Deeper Roots?